I also have that issue! It's so annoying and I've looked literally EVERYWHERE but cannot find anything that solves the issue. I also thought I were the only one with this issue, and I've also tried everything including the laptop mode. But nothing seems to work. :/
OMG! I have that EXACT same problem! I also didn't seem to find anyone with the same problem as me, and I can't find any way possible to solve this problem either!
if it works with just those lashes, there might be a conflict with something else you're using
Use the 50/50 method: http://modthesims.info/wiki.php?title=Game_Help:Finding_Problem_Custom_Content to find out what it is.
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